Kimmy, we have joint custody now, but until a few weeks ago he thought he was primary and had the right to call all the shots. Now he knows better, but he's still trying to call all the shots. He keeps insinuating that I'm not as capable of a parent as he is. The only thing remotely nice that he will say is "the kids love you, and I know you love the kids, and they need to spend time with you." I'm getting the feeling more and more that he only "lets" me see them because I am their birth mother, because he sure as hell doesn't think I provide anything else for them.