It is good that he is going and I've already felt the choke hold on me lighten dramatically. I've never met his T but they must be doing something right. Things are much better.

It is just that some comments and actions are surfacing that make me feel like...a chess piece. I know this is my own paranoia about being manipulated and I am trying to challenge those thoughts. For example the other day I was running around and had some rented movies and video games to return. I told H the errands I was running and out of the blue he said.."Hey maybe you can pick up some porn for us to watch." I couldn't help but be shocked because he has never mentioned or talked about porn to me before. I don't have issues with people who like it, but personally I find it triggering.

When H made this comment it was another one of those times where I internally felt a rush of negative energy surge through my body. IDK I couldn't help but think... Is this what you and your T are working on now; brainstorming about how to get you laid more often? On the outside I simply said, "I'm not really into watching that. If you enjoy it you're welcome to rent and watch it yourself.

IDK, his comment along with some other stuff he is doing and saying to me just gives me the feeling that I am some lab rat that H's T is trying to bait remotely. H has been asked to fill out surveys, has said his T asked him to ask me some questions, just a lot of little things. It is clear, at least to my spider senses that Hs T is trying to figure out who all the "game pieces" are at home and what things influences them. I know this is likely what Ts do, my T probably did the same thing, but if she did...she was much better at doing it under my radar. Good for me or not... I don't like to be profiled and manipulated.

I will say this, my T has never plotted with me on ways to modify/ alter my H's behavior and get him to do something to directly benefit me.We have always worked on issues from my end of things, changing my perspective, setting my boundaries and my responses to different things.If there was any behavior mod being done to get H to do/not do something it was me who generated that idea. Maybe H is using his Ts knowlege about human behavior and the info he is getting to create his own plan.

I can help envisoning two guys sharing their experiences and collaborating on stratgies for getting girls to let them "do stuff" to them. I know this is likely my mental parasite tweaking and twisting things but I'm uncomfortable.