That's messed up. Sounds like my brother. "I'm depressed, I'm stressed out." "Well, let's see a counselor or you can go by yourself." "Maybe, but only as long as I get meds to make me feel better. Then I'm done." "You'll have to go long term to at least make sure that your meds combo is working right and for refills." "I don't want to go that long." "You're depressed, but are willing to accept whatever they give you on the first try even if it doesn't work?" "No...okay, but let me make the appointment." (a week later) "Have you made the appointment?" "Stop bugging me. It's just life. I'm fine." "Well why are you in your room all day playing video games and sleeping the rest of the time?" "You're being mean. I'm depressed." "But you won't make a phone call." "When I'm ready. I can't. I need money." "So go to your job." "I can't. I'm too upset." "So I'll pay for the appointment." "Leave me alone."

Actual conversations my mom has with my brother. I wonder if you could find a counselor or state social worker who'd be willing to come to your home. I know some make house calls, but the social worker situation involves paperwork at very least. There are interventionists who will come to your house, though, and it doesn't require inviting tons of people. Could just be you, the brother, and him.