I understand too... was married to a guy in law enforcement... 26 years.

I hope you can move your focus away from prosecuting and making him own up to it... towards your own healing.

You have no reason for "regret." That was a choice you were not afforded, as is indicative of abusers.

How about taking a self defense course? It's a great confidence builder. It helps self esteem because of it's based upon defense, not offense (starting fights.) You can learn a few moves to floor your brother (literally) without hurting him... he'd begin to respect you. I suspect he behaves this way because he is identifying with the cop...

You can get through this. I'm sorry it happens to anyone... it's good that you have this site to share your feelings. TC