As you know I'm not an expert, I'm just a 50'ish year old guy who has read, seen and heard alot. I know of several close, personal instances involving friends and family members.

None has ever changed, no matter how much counseling. I don't know the exact statistics but I imagine it is rare for an abuser to change.

I wish you the best of luck and please keep us informed. In all the realationships I've ever had, and there have been several, I have never even raised my hand to a woman. That type of behaviour is foreign to me.

Please stay safe....