Unfortunately, in my situation, no....there was no hope after about the 12th time we reconciled and within a week, I was being physically forced out my front door and other abuses being done which I will not get into here.

As with an alcoholic, first there must be accountability and agreement by the abuser that they are ill and need to help themselves learn new coping skills so they never do it again. At this point, your husband is showing that he does not accept he has an issue since he went to one session and never went back. He is not being held accountable nor is he recognizing that he has and IS the problem.

I also understand very well how the abuser has emotionally wreaked havoc with our self esteem and how they make it so very very difficult to stand strong and stay safe away from them. Please do not forget how he's made you feel, not just from the physical abuse, but from the emotional and possible verbal abuse as well. Let your gut feelings guide you through this difficult time. Don't allow your heart to be louder than your gut. Don't....for ANY reason allow your mind to do that negative self talk that he probably trained you on very well. Let your gut speak out over that negative talk. And most of all.....NEVER EVER make another excuse for his behavior again!

I never saw my ex change his ways. In fact, between myself and my two daughters, we all had him arrested for assault within a 5 year period. I also saw him reign his terror on his 2nd wife as well. It takes a very special individual to actually find help, apply it and change their ways. I can't say it never happens, but I will take a gamble and say it rarely happens.

I wish you well!


sabby