You feel powerless I know, he has set you up in a pretty bad spot. Ask for help in gaining your independence, as it is important for your recovery. Can you get any referrals to support groups in your area. You are not alone. Some men marry and consider thier wives objects like a car. Sounds like you married the wrong guy, not a crime, just unfortunate. Find out if he is having an affair, if he's not sleeping with you he's sleeping with someone. If he is having an affair, you can divorce him on the grounds of adultery and mental cruelty. And you may end up with the house, and he will have to pay for it. Find out your legal options as well. There is a way out, dertermine for yourself you want a change, and work on it one day at a time.