I want to add that I'm accepting that I like my T and that it's okay to like her, and that it's okay for her to know that I like her. I think that's what makes a secure attachment for me. Sitting in that group knowing that I used to see her weekly for about 5 years just seemed okay. It's like therapy is therapy, and seeing her elsewhere is something else, but not cause for distress. It's cause for feeling good about her and about me.