I am really appreciative of the responses to this thread. I've had thoughts to this and even half written response lost in my broken compy drive (nearly recovered!! crosses fingers) that I've been wanting to add to this.

I hope we can continue this thread w/o taking each post so personally.

I did NOT start this thread seeking out better or worse, newer or older, richer or poorer.......no wait

I did not start this thread to give space to RIGHT or WRONG.

I wanted input and feedback about personal experiences. How y'all have dealt with the questions I raised is up to each of you in what you want to share or address about YOUR experience.

I am desperately awaiting my dang drive restore to get most of my files back. When that happens I would love to further add to my original response that was half finished back when compy went nutzo on me.

Until then can we please continue sharing WITHOUT getting into RIGHT/WRONG BLACK/WHITE?

As the original author of this thread I am invested in learning from the responses I requested when I posted this thread oh so whenever ago.

Let's keep learning from one another and keep listening to experiences that MAY BE DIFFERENT FROM OUR OWN but doesn't make them any less valid or real or better or worse.

I am proud of all of your courage for posting here and sharing what you have. Let's continue....