You are right Callista+12, they ARE crazy/dysfunctional. That kind of example you gave truly is off the charts inappropriate and I would have had a hard time getting through that too.

I am VERY sorry they put you through that and that they are so sick they don't seem to understand how ugly it is.

I agree with Fool Zero that if you can find any way to reduce the time around them or avoid it totally that it may be the healthy thing for you to do.

At some point we all do have to deal with family stuff and family too, but timing is everything. I dealt myself some hurts by not taking care of myself around my extended marriage family. I know now that I have to take proper care of me because they can't. I did not go to a wedding saturday night because I got so much resistence from my insiders and it made my husband annoyed with me, but that was ok, because I had to do this for me. So I appologised and stayed home and it was right for me to do that this time. Now next saturday, I will have to go to another wedding and I will cope somehow - balancing out my needs and his needs.

I am sorry your family is toxic for you. That hurts a lot.

leslie/pixies