Ok what do you do when you have four kids under the age of 11 and am unhappy with the man who you married??? He rather spend time with his daughter who he had with the first woman? The boy is from the first woman but he does not put the same time with him. I asked him to hang the clothes with me and he said he was talking to his daugther who he always has and will continue to put first. He went out to hand the clothes with his daugter. I feel like she is the wife and I am not. This has been happen before we married and he promised he would change. I feel I deserve better but the kids want him in their life that is why I married him. I do not respect him as a man, I love him but I know I deserve better and I am so lonely. I try to do the best for the family and make ends meet the with family as best as I can but as the days move on I find it harder. I am hating him more each day and myself, mostly myself. I understand if she was under the age of 18 but she is not. She does not pay for anything and her mom does not help. to top it off she get f's and d's in college. I think he is sick in his own why? Why would a man perfer his adult daughter over his wife!!!! I believe he is a little sick? Or am I sick to be with him?