Maybe you need to separate from him for a while. I agree that he should help you with your responsibilities. I also agree that sounds a little weird to me too. I really haven't seen any man I know act like that. If you do separate you can get him to pay child support, so that will help you with your bills. That really sounds really freaky to me. I would leave. What does the kids say about all of this? I know that they have got to wonder.