I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and he has BPD. I did not know this when we got together, and I do not think he did either. Well, recently, we had another huge argument, and of course I was in the wrong, but he went in to such a rage, he broke half the stuff in the house. After he left, and went back to his moms, I went to my moms, I was so scared. He has been in a rage before, but not like this. I had been able to handle it before, but this one, it was way over the top. Back to my story, well, when I got to my moms, I was so upset, and crying. I told her what happened, and she said I could not handle him, that I need to just get away from him. We talked about it, and I know after a day or so he is ok, but she made me promise to file a restraining order. The next day, I told him I was going to, and that he should just leave me alone. He did not believe me, and he just blew up my phone. I did go and file the restraining order, and he left me alone. After about a week, we went back to court, and finalized the order for a year. He was so... adimant about accepting the order. He agreed... I was heart broken, I don't know why accept that I guess he would just fight it and say he was getting help, and he did not want it. Well, I left the court room in tears, I did not let him see. A couple of days later, a friend of ours called, and said he wanted to talk to me. I told her I could not, it would be against the order. She said it would be ok to call him, he could not call me. So I did. We talked, and since then we have met a few times in private. The last time, he got upset about something, and started yelling at me. It was like it was all over again. He says he is going to see a counselor. He tells me other things, that I know are lies. Is lying part of BPD? I just don't know what to do. I do love him, I know I can't fix him. Any suggestions would be very helpful.