hi all, my name is elise and this is my first post here. I came across and joined this site while searching for help on my jealousy issues. i have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. we have had major ups and downs but push through somehow. my problem which is consuming me, is that i am unbearably jealous of his ex girlfriend with whom he has a child with. i use to not be so jealous of her, but she is a nut. everytime me and him argue she gets involved and starts stuff. she has told me that he loves her and not me, that he cheats all the time, that he has called her wanting her back. keep in mind she only has done these things at times when no one was getting along. the list goes on. i cant stand her ways and i have no choice but to deal with her because of the child involved. i get filled with rage everytime i see her. im suppose to let the past go, but words really stick with me. i have this fear that everytime he is around her he is having feelings for her. he gets aggravated with her alot and just tells me he is tired of all the past fueds and that he is going to get along with her for the sake of his son. i understand and respect that. she acts like she has claim on him because they have a child together, she knows i have jealousy towards her and she does little things that i see. my issues are causing him and i to argue almost everytime she comes around, and he gets mad at me. he says he gets mad because its stupid for me to be like that, but i just dont trust her. i am 30 years old and this girl plays head games like most high school people do. this is the tip of the iceberg and i haven't gone into major detail here because it would take quite a while. i just cant feel this way anymore and when i talk to my man about it, it ends with him getting mad at me for acting like this, because, like i said, in his mind, its stupid......i just cant take these feelings anymore