I can see how this could be upsetting but helpful at the same time. I sometimes feel like now it is ME who is making H walk on eggshells. Since I spend a long time tip-toeing around him trying to avoid setting off angry outbursts, I know first hand what it is like to be on edge and fearful of setting someone else off. If I am now putting my H through this...its wrong. I realize that BOTH parties need to have enough information to make the relationship health for ALL including the kids.

All I would say Miss C is that you and your H aren't just putting your heads together for your well-being. As a couple you well-being will like benefit HIS well-being also. Don't make the mistake in thinking he is doing stuff just for you.


I hate these feelings too. But then again, when you reach a point where you realize that your reaction to something was distorted/skewed/ off-base whatever...its really a good thing. Maybe we we feel this way we should be celebrating a return to more health thought patterns and just focus our efforts on staying in this mental state longer.

Miss C I'm glad you're feeling better. Let's both see how long we can stay here, OK.