I noticed that too - he did answer at the top of this page. We should let the original poster give us updates, but I actually don't want to speculate more. If they have the resources (insurance or income) they may want to look into couples therapy to weed-out anything that may be causing relationship troubles. I think that her first post about needing the sex and needing the intimacy are two different tracks. Intimacy and sex (to me) are actually separate animals. You can sit together and talk intimately without having sex. And you can have lots of sex without intimacy. I personally don't want to have sex without intimacy and that starts the moment you wake up in the morning. It's how you look at each other, the respects you give each other, whether there is a lot of arguing or happiness, the level of understanding of your partner and more. Sex just follows that.

To judge intimacy, I use my "phone factor" theory. Call your partner. How long do you talk? Is it 1-minute or does it drag on where you actually have to push each other away after a long talk. I just watched the movie "Lost in Translation" last night - Bill Murry talking to his wife on the phone in different scenes is what I'm talking about.