I called my husband and told him I was asking for a divorce while he was on vacation with his father and three brothers, all of whom are wise and caring men. I did this with hope that he would open up with them in that situation, maybe do some brainstorming. They are all wonderful people who I think would be there for him and not denigrate me in the meantime. He has few (no) personal friends and I sincerely think he needs this support from them.

Now I don't know if he has spoken with them at all, maybe he wants to keep this to himself.

We will have our first marriage counseling session tonight and I don't know what to expect. I don't want to spend 40 minutes criticizing each other, I can't stand my feelings getting hurt, I am extremely sensitive, and I don't want to say bad things about him either. It seems counter-productive to do this to someone who needs to heal to become happier and believe in the future. Where does the hope come from? Seriously I would rather get in the car and drive off a cliff, but I can't because I have our kids living with us, but I'm so unhappy every time I look at him. How much can I reveal in these sessions?