The advise " not to push it" sounded good . I was sure i could cool it and be patient, but the coldness and distancing compelled me to involve myself more .How could I not worry when She has changed so much. I have been replaced as companion , by an old" friend" who is helping with everything. 24/7 .
Update:A severe defensive attitude has my girlfriend her making accusations of me she is creating this image principally that I am stalking her. She is blocking her cell #, calls me when she feels like it,she will not tell me where she is , will not answer any probing questions, will not see me or give me any time. I have had to go to her house as the only possible way to know she is Ok. She has forbid me to just "show up" or wait out side. She is frightened now by me and has told of my harrassing and stalking. Her new companion certainly believes her and is now "protecting" her from me. He has been hiding her..she says she can not go home because I might be there ..waiting. How ironic that who I am is honestly explained in my psych .profile...I am an.." I.N.F.J."; "The Protector". I am this for her or anyone and by association with my girl , all of her close people now believe her fears to be valid. Her acting out draws sympathy and now anger towards me and nothing I can do changes their opinions. A call promising to talk later came tues. morn.I asked to please let me see her to know she is ok. Her buddy keeps her from contacting me further ..I am really wondering about his intentions. WTF is going on? I had to dive to her place 40 miles and wait. She finally drive up in his car. She called and we talked mostly in defense by her of what she see's erroneously as intentional stalking and pressure that I won't stop. I can only repeat my honorable intentions. She becomes so upset to find me waiting that she threatens a restraining order hangs up a speeds awayas if to get away ,from me. Her close friend calls yelling and screaming at me. again she threatens with the police and others if I don't leave and stop blocking the entry to he home. I was accused of keeping her out of her house and being hostile to her and her friend. i have not acted out. I have been the one with her very best interest at heart and my manners reflect my love and dedication to her. Especially now. I fear that these friends will only prevent recognition and treatment for her and this will be disastrous as she is unraveling. So i could not back off and now I am off and out by consensus.
No pressure from me is a good thing,right?
This must be the" Twilight Zone" version of reality. The feeling that this new friend is protecting her from ME is pure heartbreak for me . I will be looking at counseling to find the strength to go on. But I won't give up protecting. I've got to find the answers for her.
We are not married . What right do I have to bring her condition to the attention of anybody? And how should I do it? Help!