The best way to start this session off with is YOUR truth...for yourself.
Lay it on the table..how it IS for you. How you feel about it all. Only then, can that provide you an honest direction to go in.

Your hub or counselor cannot offer approprtiate responses if you withhold YOUR truth.

Just from your post alone, it is obvious that you are not a vengeful person and only seek peace for all concerned....STARTING with you.
With that as fact, which will speak for itself, you can only attend this by providing what you are seeking out of this.
Honesty is your best bet, I would think.

I hope this works for you.

Take care~

Shangrala