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Originally Posted by bonaire
jm - I don't entirely agree but I see your point. Your generalizations aren't happening in every household. For me, I'd say it is attraction. I cannot "initiate" with someone who I feel doesn't love themselves (let alone me). I do not want to use my wife for my own needs. If the stars align and we are in the right place in our relationship, maybe it'll happen once or twice a year now.
There is a good amount of sexless marriages out there. You just haven't experienced that phase yet - then you may understand. I'm not saying that you're wrong - just that your generalizations are not entirely wide-spread. And no, people shouldn't get divorced if they stop having sex. It's not a requirement of marriage.
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I have got to tell you bonaire that your a good man. I'm sure that when I get older I probably will go threw this. My bf is really good to me, and so even though I'm not in the mood sometimes I give it up. Sorry I hate putting it like that, but I don't know of another way. Now there was a time that I was married, and I cut my ex completely off, because I couldn't stand him. The only thing that came good out of that are my kids. I also agree with you if someone isn't able to perform that you shouldn't get a divorce. I would like to say this, if 1 partner is active and the other 1 isn't there could be a lot of problems in the relationship. IMO a relationship needs to be worked on by both partners. From what I have read with this couple, the girlfriend wants it, and the bf doesn't. I just think that they should come up with a compromise to where they are both happy.
