yes, zh, ty. my soul/sole goal is protect my little man. he's already got many strikes against his being emotionally "ok". i don't want her to hurt him. however, if she's going to (to spite me) it's better that she does it now. he'll heal much more quickly.

i want her to have a relationship with him. i hate to say that i actually need that for selves. however, in the process, i have to protect selves. this is a lose/lose situation, and it royally sucks.

however, i've seen worse. insiders have been very helpful and i'm sure they'll help me to come up with a viable solution.

zh, thank you so much again.

kd