Hi ya ltlredvett,

I'm not sure if we have ever spoken before, but found it impossible not to say a few things.

First, I have read your previous posts and thought you were getting some great advice. But what really made me respond this time, I guess, was the admiration I feel for you in how you have grown - in how you have dealt with this. I'm really impressed! For whatever it is worth - I'm very proud of you.

You've been very honest. Maybe not at first, but that was part of it. I think the REAL YOU has always been honest - with yourself and with us. And when you weren't, and you realized it - YOU were the one to admit it - to us all, including yourself. I think it takes a really BIG person to do that. And I think, you've come a long way - and have worked hard to improve your situation. I really have to respect that.

You asked us what we thought - well, I for one believe that there is someone out there for everyone, and you've been upfront and totally honest with this woman.

I think it is great you are seeing someone. Just take it from here and let it go wherever it will - be it as just friends, or something more.

And one thing else ... take this relationship at it's begining, which is now, and let go of the past, as in what happened in other relationships. I guess what I'm trying to say is, people are people and people make mistakes. Please, don't allow previous mistakes to prevent you from developing other relationships.

Your friend Sam (who believes making a mistake is't bad - it's what one does when they make a mistake that determines if it is bad or not)

Anyone can say I love you, but actions speak louder than words.