(((((geekgirl))))) I hope those hugs helps some.

This is just my personal opinion - but I think he was being a jerk and was just using you. I'm glad you kicked him out - you don't need to go backwards, but forwards. As long as he is able to mooch off you, neither of you will ever have closure, or peace.

And both, you and your daughters deserve better. Maybe, if he is forced to do it, he will get help - if not, let him be someone else's problem. I've found that negativity begats negativity.

And - try your best to place it behind you. You've certainly paid your dues. But most importantly I think, is that you owe it your daughters and yourself, to take care of you. As for your ex - perhaps he should start being a man, and take care of himself, and hopefully once that is done - he can help support his daughters.

(((((geekgirl))))) ... More hugs for you sweetie.

Your friend Sam

Anyone can say I love you, but actions speak louder than words.