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eskielover · Aug 01, 2009, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Tishie

Well I have had three go through my 'lies' and without any damage to me or them lol.....

Three more are growing up with the 'lies' and are very happy children enjoying childhood in the way that suits me.

In fact the twenty year old looks on me fondly for trying to kid them up as children and adds to it with the little ones in the same way as I do which I find endearing....

The eleven year old who now knows the truth would not dream of telling the younger ones the truth !

Maybe it has to do with location & peer issues in the US.....it's not a good idea to be naive about anything. I don't mean you have to have all the gory details at a young age.....but the foundations on which the truth is based is what is important......children can be very mean here when they run into a child that doesn't know the information that is known by everyone else around them. Maybe we all should be able to live with less pressure in that way. Maybe the peer pressure in Scotland is a lot less than it is here in the US. I would honestly love to live where that is the case. But one must survive in the environment they exist in & handle the child in the way that the parents know exists in that environment in the best interest of the child.......nothing can really go wrong if you lay the foundations of truth the child needs for growth throughout life.

However, along the holiday lines, I hold to the true religious meanings of those also......that also is the foundation on which our family lives grow & can be just as much fun & exciting & children can enjoy their childhood just as much with their holidays based on the true traditions of the holiday than having it based on secular concepts. There are many fun ways we had of spending the whole season up to the Holidays in preparation for it which ended up being beautiful traditions that are held into next generations. I wouldn't trade those memories I had as a child for anything secular & neither would my daughter.

JMO,
Debbie