Rapunzel - well wait, though. I don't want to criticize Nocturne in any way at all, because I can clearly hear the suffering that he is experiencing. But, I wouldn't say that his wife isn't giving him much of a chance -- this has been going on for quite a long time, and remember that he has a spending problem. That can take a HUGE toll on anybody's marriage, regardless of whether depression is in the picture.

Nocturne - I'm sorry that things are taking a turn for the worse. I remember you posting several months ago, when your wife originally asked you to leave. You posted right before you moved out (I think you were going to stay in your truck -- I was encouraging you to at least find a friend to stay with). It seems like a lot has happened since then, including you moving back in! It's a shame that your wife can't stick to her decisions (move out... ok, you can move back in now... now move out again), because I'm sure it is really disrupting to any progress you are obviously trying really hard to make. Also for your daughter -- you are definitely doing the right thing by being concerned about your wife's ability to be a single caretaker.

I'm glad that you're seeing a couples' therapist. Hopefully he/she will be able to help mediate a fair interim solution until you can work things out for the long term.

I'm thinking of you,

LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!