kd,

I just read this and I feel so for you having to be in this situation with the mother. ( you know about our the mother) I, like _zh ,know you are acting first in protection of little man and have so much respect for you in this. It is hard to go day to day and then to devote yourself to another like you have speaks volumes to your strength and character.

I wish for the day to soon come when the mother is no longer a "must have" in your life and you can free yourselves of her manipulation tactics.

Peace to you my friend.

take care.