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It is my own personal belief that the age difference you and your girlfriend have is too much at this stage in both your lives. It is criminal in my state (and a quick google for Massachusetts also reveals that it is the same there) if you are sexually active. Keep in mind this means if you are caught or she decides to file a complaint, you will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life. The sites I checked out suggest to me that Massachusetts is not as vigilant about enforcing these laws as Wisconsin is.
I have no doubt that you don’t know who your girlfriend really is because at 15 she doesn’t even know yet. Her personality isn’t fully formed yet. I know we all change every day, but at 15 the line between child and adult is very blurry. Your comment about her response to your brother’s depression seemed odd until you mentioned her age. Most 15 years old (contrary to their own personal belief) are more child than adult. I’ve said a million times that I wish I knew now half of what I thought I knew at 18.
I really do remember what it’s like to be your age. One of the things that I’ve told my children based upon my own experiences is that it’s absolutely imperative that you do not make an important decision to make someone else happy when you’re not sure. In other words, don’t say yes just because you think no is too difficult. Minor things like what movie to see, where to spend your Saturday night etc aside. For decisions like who you’re going to be in a relationship with, who you’re going to have sex with, things that will change your life YOU HAVE TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF FIRST!!!!!!! By agreeing to a relationship that you’re not fully committed to you’re just postponing (and possibly compounding) the heartache.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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