first off, she sounds like she needs help too..

I do not know what state you live in, but where I live that is called "child endergment" very bad thing, for any parent to be in bed, and the child up running around let alone at 4 years old..
Couple counsling is a great idea, but you need to find out why?? she is saying she wants you out. if you hvae been supportive of her problems why cant she be supportive of yours..
That is just wrong, a marriage is a 50/50 thing not 100 on one person it does not work that way. Trust me I have been there before, and it never works out, one or the other needs to change..
It sounds like you are trying, messing up on a credit card is ok, as long as you cut it up and never use it again!!!!!!!

Ok, you both need to fiqrure out if you are or can stay with each other. If not, then she needs to give you the time to find a place you can afford so you will be able to pay child support if that is asked for.. You both need to think eveything over before you "jump of a cliff" or dive head frist into a deaper debt or deperssion on both of your parts......

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