Thank you. Now I think our kayaking plans are ruined because my inlaws decided that they had to make us come over (they couldn't stop at our house) because they have a gift for our dog. My husband was arguing with thenm right in the grocery store about it and we ended up going over there with our ice cream melting in the back of the car and being polite while they talked for a while and then gave us the dog's present and then asked my husband to change a light bulb in the yard to which he said no.

Now it's cloudy, and cool, which is weather I don't particularly like for kayaking, and no one has had lunch. By the time we get the boats on the car, eat lunch and find a place to go, it will be time for us to come home because it will be dinner time for the kids.

This happens very often and I have reserved the right to be very angry and gloomy about it because although I can't control my husband's reactions to my parents, this is the precise thing we have gone into counselling together for. He needs to create boundaries with his parents because they have no respect for our plans and if they have something they want us to do, we are suppose to fall in line like sheep and bleat our way over to their house and sit pretty while they shave our wool and put pretty ribbons all over us and manipulate us.

So I add them to my list of triggers. I have had contact with all of these people today. I can hardly wait until therapy tomorrow.