thank you so much! I do appreciate the good advice and support! You know, i am still cleaning?! I did not realise how dirty things could get over a period of time! Insense dust was everywhere, dishes piled up in the sink, his clothes on the floor, diningroom chairs and couches, one side of the coffee table was black, under my couch were a shitload of crumbs, i think i am going to have to vaccume twice, will have to spot clean the hardwoods, cuz i sure am getting tired!