i hate it too! But i used my anger and indignation to motivate myself. I replaced 2 lightbulbs, scrubbed the stains off the carpet, vaccumed, packed up his stuff and put it in my closet, washed some fine washables, scrubbed my coffee table (it is rustic so it is okay), moved my bed, moved the wall unit in the living room, cleaned the bathroom, spot cleaned the walls and baseboards. I am saving the kitchen for tomorrow. So except for the kitchen it looks like a nice, cozy home complete with relaxing music. Even the cats are a bit freaked...they were in the courtyard all day so they had no idea. They will be exploring. Kinda fun watching them. I hope you do not mind me reporting on my progress but without the support i have gotten here, my big home project would not have turned out so wonderful. My faith that other people really do care is being restored. Thank you all so much! I hope you all do not mind if i continue this thread throughout the week as i have a lot of challenges to meet this week with support?