Thanks jerrymichele, I am very thankful to you for helping me.
My friends know that I am alone. Yes, they also do have single friends. They never introduce me to anyone. I have come to believe that they enjoy seeing me like this. Maybe they need me like this because who else is going to help them with the babysitting, or the hourly therapy sessions where they bash their husbands and their lives, or do them favours?
Some of my girlfriends have actually teased me by saying "Oh...there is this cool guy that I know, and you will totally like him and bla bla bla". There is never a follow-up to this conversation though. Last time a "friend" said this to me, she acted it up just to see what my reaction would be and if I would show despiration. I calmly told her "Sure, send him over." Till this day I'm still waiting for her call....(it's been more than 6 months). Oh! And get this....one other of my female friends found 2 guys to introduce me to....and oh...what luck one of them was a train-wreck (completely beaten down from his ex-wife) and the other was divorced, twice my age and with 4 toddler boys!!!!!!!!! I guess my female friends are getting a kick out my single status.
My male friends are now very distant. I really do miss those. Their g/f, fiancees, wives don't allow them or simply distract them from hanging out with their female friends. With these guys I have never had any attraction issues. They were like brothers to me. They had no reason to distance me. Are they afraid of me because I'm single? Are they afraid of their husbands cause I'm usually prettier than them? (I'm not being vain here. I am not that ugly, but most of the times I am cuter than the women my male friends ended up with). In any case...no chances with my male friends to introduce me to somebody. They are gone.
Yes, I've tried internet dating for 2 years. Let me tell you....in all cases...these men were weird, not normal at all. Plus they all lied with their photo, their hobbies and what they were looking for. Every -very public- meeting I had with them ended up with them liking me but with me running for my life. Once one of them completely freaked me out because he was so nervous he kept putting his fingernail in between his teeth. At some point he was pressing his gums so bad that blood was coming out!!!!! That was also the last attempt I made with internet dating. I so do not suggest it. Never again. Healthy men are not located there. They are out, having fun, doing activities that are fun, they are always busy. I have found dosens of good healthy fun guys...the thing is that they never want me. They always like to keep me close as a friend and then go for one of my girlfriends or some other random chick. When they lock up a relationship, then they vanish completely from my life.
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