Ignorance is the biggest obstacle. I'd tell the H as much as he needs to know until he understands it. My H only wants to know as much as he needs to. I have to push it on him to know "more" than he wants to know. It's not just one person he is dealing with, there's others & our H's have to realize that. We are not alone in the Body.
Hope it works out for you.
Love,
RM