did go see t. yesterday. came up with a plan--first talk to H about the issue. then ask him to ask who is in bed with him before he "gets the idea" make sure it isn't a little there. also t said to talk to the system and explain to the littles especially that in bed with h is not where they are to be. it is only for bigs. h is willing to be more sensitive and make sure he knows who he's being close to. he said that he definately doesn't want to be in bed with an 8 yr old.

he is dealing with this whole thing with some humor (a way he deals with heavy stuff until he processes) and wanted to know if this makes him a polygamist?? LOL it did make him think a minute about some of our past times together and he now realizes. he apologized for his insensitivity to my needs. we are talking. we both see my t monday nite and it will be interesting.

I thank God that my h is really trying to understand and will help any way he can.
thanks all for your input. this is a really rough road.
wi