My mother also never understood that babies grow up. We weren't allowed to, and she fought me when I tried. My 35-year-old sister is still stuck at home and doesn't challenge it. And my youngest sister (age 22 now, with Down Syndrome), was what mom needed us all to be. My family's casualty count rises. None of us escaped without mental health issues, even if some don't admit it and insist on staying the same and creating a new generation with the same problems.