Kiya, what would you do if something happened to your mom and you couldn't live with her anymore? Or if she wasn't there? I've had just about the same conversation with my sister, too, and she also doesn't see any options for moving out. Even when I invite her to come and visit us for a while, she finds a reason why she can't. And I'm stuck where I am too, so don't feel like I'm just pointing fingers. But, what is it really that keeps us all from starting our own lives? Maybe not tomorrow or next week, but at some specific point in the relatively near future? What would you have to give up, for a while, to get away? Would it be worth it in the long run? I mean, I remember not always having enough money when I was a single college student, but I would have survived that for another couple of years or so until I could get a better job. I hope, at least. It's a bit scary, but isn't it scary to have your mom controlling your life for the rest of your life, or hers? Isn't your daydream scary? I was dreaming of living in my car, too, the year before I left my parents' house and went away to school. It seemed like a better option than staying stuck. Independence and confidence are needs, and being prevented from getting those needs met is pretty serious low-nurturance. It's crippling.
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