Then what should I do with the constant guilt feelings and anxiety that she's causing us....yesterday, she told me "you think I don't know none of you want me here"...I said "why do you say that?"...then I told her..."you are always angry"...she uses very bad words against my American brother-in-low who is the sweetest guy ever....of course, I told her I don't want to hear anything....and she got so mad...she said I can't say any of these stuff to anybody....
Yesterday, I thought she's a total crazy person....she was complaining why we don't have bigger homes and more money and why we haven't taken her anywhere....anywhere we are taking her she doesn't like!
I feel like a **** for not wanting to be with her....
Yesterday, I put a funny movie and for 90 minutes she was kinda quiet!
My dad was suppose to come and visit us....now she made him against of us and he's not comming....I miss my dad so much and he's 70 years old with heart problem....he's so kind and I'm always wonder how he managed living with my mom....he told us that his life was like a hell with her, but no choice...living with her because of kids....I told him, but we don't need this misrable life!!!! I don't think I've ever learnt how to act in a relationship....sometimes when I'm in a relationship, I feel I'm like my mom and I hate myself....my older sister is telling me the same....she tells me that she hates when all of a sudden she's getting mad at her kids and beating them like the way that mom was doing....
yes...very difficult to change the patern that we learnt!

thanks again