I offer a different perspective. I don't believe in The gaOne, or my soulmate and especially don't expect to find somebody who is perfect.

We all have baggage from life and there is no such thing as the perfect relationship.

Rather than focus on the search for Mr Right I am seeking to make casual friends and if things progress into something close and healthy that is great but if not I don't need a man to be happy.

I had one really great relationship for seven years and then my man met a guy who gave him meth and the great relationship fell apart as he became nutso and violent and things ended in tragedy.

Will I ever have a close relationship again? Nobody knows. There is no crystal ball for me or for you. We just have to take it day by day and wonder at what surprises are around the corner for each of us.

I wish you the best in finding friends worthy of serious relationships.