Thank you for your input and support. The thing is, I do all the things you suggest. I am friendly, and outgoing (much more than I used to be), I make sure to ask about people, and their family, especially if I know their mom has been ill, or daughter left for college, son had his bar mitzvah, etc.

These are friendly workplace exchanges, not a "friendship" that will last beyond my employment period. Once I or they leave this job, the friendship is over. I don't want that. I hate that.

Same with classes. Everybody is all friendly during class, but once class ends, so does the friendship. Some last a little while, via email, but those die off pretty quickly.

My only friends are my Husband's friends--ALL MALE. I haven't got a girlfriend to shop with, go to lunch with, do things with that my husband doesn't like to do. That's what I want. What I Need, and is and has been missing from my life. And I don't know how to get it.

Several people in my office go to lunch together regularly, others go to happy hour at least once a month. I've never even been invited, not to lunch, not to happy hour, nothing. Once I tried to put together a happy hour in celebration of several people in the office graduating from college. No one even responded to me.