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Aug 05, 2009, 11:52 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Sunset....
Welcome to PC. I agree with both Deli and Susan. On one hand you do want to trust your gut and honor your feelings, yet maybe you might want to make sure that your feelings match with what the situation actually is.
I don't know this person....so maybe I would feel uncomfortable too, but some people, especially if they are from different cultures, do not see this type of behavior as offensive so he may not even be meaning anything by it or know that it is bothering you.
Next time you feel he is lurking, why don't you just ask him if there is something that he needs, or take him aside in the office and let him know that his behavior is making you uncomfortable and politely ask him to stop. If he doesn't respect your wishes, then take it to his boss, or your boss. But first and foremost attempt to give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him to please stop this behavior because to you it feels invasive.
If you tell him it makes you uncomfortable, he may feel bad and his behavior may change. If it doesn't, take it up the chain of command.
This may be difficult for you, as your response to Deli's post made you sound like a very defensive person, but you did post this situation on a public support forum so if you don't want suggestions or opinions, maybe next time you should say so upfront in your post.
Maybe that is one of your challenges? Setting personal boundaries and being upfront about your needs and desires?
I hope this helps some....
Take care!! 
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