I so get where you're coming from because life is just the same for me. Over the years I've tended to have just one close friend but sooner or later they've "dumped" me in favour of someone else or used me so now I'm alone. I think I'm a very friendly person and I certainly seem to smile more than most, but although people at work seem to chat to me OK but just like you, there's never been suggestion of meeting outside of work.

The same thing happened when I went to evening classes. I was sure someone would want to keep in touch and swap numbers but it never happened, despite my hints. It's like people already have a circle of friends and aren't interested in gaining more, whereas I can't even get one!

I ended up just trying to get a penfriend and contacted several people with whom I had lots in common but again, no reply, not even a courteous "thanks, but no thanks".

I shop alone, eat lunch alone, have coffee alone and it makes me so sad to look around and see so many people sitting with their friends, talking and laughing.

I would so love to change my situation that I'll even ask on here - I'm 37, female, live in Essex (UK) and would love another woman to write to or meet for coffee!!!