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Old Aug 06, 2009, 06:09 AM
Peppermint_Patty Peppermint_Patty is offline
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Hi catch,

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Originally Posted by catch View Post
Thank you for your input and support. The thing is, I do all the things you suggest. I am friendly, and outgoing (much more than I used to be), I make sure to ask about people, and their family, especially if I know their mom has been ill, or daughter left for college, son had his bar mitzvah, etc.

These are friendly workplace exchanges, not a "friendship" that will last beyond my employment period. Once I or they leave this job, the friendship is over. I don't want that. I hate that.

Same with classes. Everybody is all friendly during class, but once class ends, so does the friendship. Some last a little while, via email, but those die off pretty quickly.

My only friends are my Husband's friends--ALL MALE. I haven't got a girlfriend to shop with, go to lunch with, do things with that my husband doesn't like to do. That's what I want. What I Need, and is and has been missing from my life. And I don't know how to get it.

Several people in my office go to lunch together regularly, others go to happy hour at least once a month. I've never even been invited, not to lunch, not to happy hour, nothing. Once I tried to put together a happy hour in celebration of several people in the office graduating from college. No one even responded to me.
Finding friends is hard for everyone. Everyone experiences rejection. So don't give up. Keep reaching out to people. Sooner or later you will find someone who will want to be your friend.

Take care

Peppermint