((((((((((( Kiya ))))))))))))

I understand. My sister is in a very similar situation, and I would have been too if I hadn't fought to leave home when I did. And it was a battle, and took me a year to find a way thanks to sabotage by my mother. She taught me that nothing I had was mine because she essentially owned me. So I left with hardly anything. It's also interesting how we stay for our pets. My sister has her cats too, and fish. I left my parents but I'm stuck again now in my marriage, and giving up my pets and animals is would be unacceptable for me and I don't know if I could find a way to take them with me. My T says that I could.

I do understand how hard it is. And all the feelings you are having from posting this, and thinking about this stuff. You can't change your mother - she will be who she is. But you don't have to give her your money or anything else, and you can say no to her and decide to take charge of your life. People like you and me and my sister tend to be nearly invisible, and hard to find. If you found someone else in a similar situation, would you be able to share a house or apartment? Would that help?

I'll try to stop picking on you. You really have my attention because I relate to your circumstances so much.