Why is it so difficult to do that indeed? I struggle with it all the time! I had to reschedule an appt. with T - I started to say that I would prefer an afternoon appointment and then stopped myself and told her I was flexible. T said, "No, what were you going to say?" She made me tell her what I needed. Granted, this is nothing like what you needed from your T, tree - just saying that I don't know why it's so hard to tell T what we need, but it is!