Treehouse, I'm sorry you had such a hard session.

With regard to the part about you having a need and him refusing to meet it unless you asked for it, and instead wanting to talk about the pain of not having that need met in the past - that exact scenario has led to some of my worst times in therapy. All I can say is that if they all do it, even the really considerate ones like yours (and mine), it must be some kind of therapeutic technique rather than a lack of caring. I wish I understood it better, but I know that it's very painful in the moment. Take care of yourself.