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I understand the pain of wanting something from your T so badly, but wanting him to do it without you asking. My first T was psychodynamic, so she and I had a close connection. But she used to tell me that she was not a mind reader. She wanted me to be able to tell her what I wanted.

In real life, we usually don't get what we want without asking for it because people are not mind-readers. I know it seems cruel, but I think your T is showing you how you have to act with others if you want them to nurture you. It's a skill that we all need! I wish that my H would know when I want a hug, but he doesn't. If I don't ask, I don't get.

I also can see how very HARD you are working in therapy. This is the nitty-gritty of therapy, and I found that there was no way AROUND it. I just had to go THROUGH it.

You are doing great!!