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Originally Posted by sunrise
Some have suggested that T is not giving you what you need unless you ask because he wants you to learn to do that, but you wrote above that he is doing it to be careful. Do you know what he means by that?
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Not really. Well, maybe a little. Before we had ANY physical contact in therapy, there was a lot of talking about it. I think he wants to make sure we are on the same page, I feel safe, etc.
I guess what hurt is that he HAS offered in the past, but he didn't today, and I really just needed him to. I KNEW I could ask, and he would come over and sit with me, 100% for sure, and I am really good at asking for things usually, but I just couldn't. But I asked why he wouldn't sit with me unless I asked, so he knew what I was wanting. It almost felt like a power struggle, at a really stupid and unhelpful time. He said he was sorry in the message he left for me. And I know he is, and it will be fine. But still, it just hurt.
He does always offer a hug (I don't have to ask). Not today, because I stood up and walked out of the room before he could get up and offer. But usually.
So.
