((((((((((((((((catgirl))))))))))))))))))) thank you, and you're right. i just lost my father last month so he's no longer available in any way. my mother is now out of my life. t is worried that she will stop at nothing to get me back, and when she can't lash out viscously.

you used the same wording that i did. i wrote a letter to her taking back any power i gave her and to "purge" her from my being. it's not that black and white i know. however, it was a powerful experience. it was, and is, empowering.

thank you for sharing. i'm sorry you've gone thru the same. i wish you the best.

kd