Gawd...You know....
This really IS a hard situation to be in. I was there myself at one time. I know the scenerio and the compromises from the allowance of said situation to continue. I lost my support from those who cared about me because there was simply nothing they could do FOR me as I allowed this to continue.....not to mention how much it was hurting them witnessing me allowing this to continue.

I realize that I may sound brass and blunt, but there really is no point of sugarcoating the realities here.

jchryl....ONLY you can decide how much you are willing to tolerate. So long as you strive for betterment, other's will be willing to support you through this, but no one can do this for you.
If you abandon yourself, (by allowing this to continue), you can bet others will abandon you, as well.
THAT is the reality of it.

Again, I wish you the best. And I'm confident that you will do what's best for you.

Shangrala