I agree. I think if your friend is able & wanting to, she should/ could come here.
Me, I have male alters. Real people don't notice when I 'switch'/ dissociate 'cos my 'people' are just like me. Real people just think I'm moody, they don't think, Gee, she's a multiple! Unless they know me real well, they just don't see. For one thing, I don't allow people to see my alters. I have a deep fear of being sent away (even tho I have never been hosp.).
Let your friend know she's welcome to come here. You are as well. We'll help as much as we can, but we need more info.
Love,
RM